Its a very social society, but...
Jun. 12th, 2017 12:05 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
glowing_fishI have a big social group here, and there is always something to do.
Those things to do usually involve spending money, drinking, and staying out late in crowded, noisy places.
And one thing I noticed is that the people who always want me to go out with them, who always have plans of things to do, are less available when I want any type of quieter and more serious relationship. I have made a lot of Facebook contacts who can pose in pictures with me, etc. Wow, look at us. And then I started trying to see what they would do for me on my boring weekends, when I was lonely, when I had stuff to talk about...not so much.
The group is important here, for the people from this culture, and for young "expats" who need something to latch on to. Its an easy thing to slide in to and surround yourself in, but who are these people beyond people who laugh while they are drinking a five dollar beer?
Those things to do usually involve spending money, drinking, and staying out late in crowded, noisy places.
And one thing I noticed is that the people who always want me to go out with them, who always have plans of things to do, are less available when I want any type of quieter and more serious relationship. I have made a lot of Facebook contacts who can pose in pictures with me, etc. Wow, look at us. And then I started trying to see what they would do for me on my boring weekends, when I was lonely, when I had stuff to talk about...not so much.
The group is important here, for the people from this culture, and for young "expats" who need something to latch on to. Its an easy thing to slide in to and surround yourself in, but who are these people beyond people who laugh while they are drinking a five dollar beer?
Well...
Date: 2017-06-24 07:19 pm (UTC)Do you have a place to throw a party? You could always try holding an introvert party, which is a success with 2-3 other people. Puzzles, games, quiet music, maybe a movie -- stuff to encourage people to interact and get to know each other. Doubt you could find it down there, but one of our favorite games is Imaginiff because it requires thinking about the other people in the group and what they are like.
I think introverts and other quiet folks would be more sociable if they had more opportunities for the kind of event they find enjoyable. I have a description of an introvert party here.